What is Your Attitude Toward Money?

Money is one of the top three reasons people don't sleep at night. Sadly, nobody gets rich from worrying about it.

Along with religion and politics, discussions about having or not having money always seem to stir up controversy.  So many women, have some deep seated issues and old wounds when it comes to money.

Whether it’s a divorce, childhood poverty, fights over who’s making the most—all of that boils down to your attitude towards money.

If you are sabotaging yourself around money anywhere in your life, most likely there is a message, story or belief system behind it.

Your behaviour towards money is the determining fact if you make it or not into the financially comfortable or wealthy zone.  

Most of us have a bad relationship with money. And this shows in how we treat it.  That is why some of us have more money at our command while others have little money to command.

Our relationship with money lies on a spectrum. On one side of the spectrum is financial insecurity. On the other end, you may be extremely frugal and concerned with the relative scarcity of your means; on the other, you may be very irresponsible. The way each of us processes and organizes money messages—as well as the ways in which we model money behaviors—is unique.

If we don’t have it, money becomes the reason we end up not having everything we want in life. And because we don't have it, we end up resenting those those who do and we end creating stories in our heads of how evil they must be – so that we can feel better.

And for some who managed to make it, this journey becomes so confusing that even when we do make money, we tend to feel some sort of guilt around having it – as if we are a fraud or not worthy of having so much of it.

Money in it's form as paper, does not affect your life but rather your attitude toward it does. So rather than worshiping it or demonising it, we need to shift our perspective around money and simply view it as a willing, eager, and supportive asset that we can use to do all the good we want to do.

This is why you need to spend time and effort understanding its implications and to find the proper place for it in your life. Like any good relationship, you need to nurture it and establish the proper mindset and attitude.

If you want to improve your relationship with money, start with these 3 simple steps.

1. Be honest. It's time you got clear and came clean with what they are.  Your relationship with money will only improve when you are honest with yourself about your money issues and situation. Denial is not going to make things better. But confronting those fears will help.  If you know why you do the things that don’t serve you, you’ll have an idea of which habits to change in order to create the greatest improvement in your money relationship.

2. Ask yourself questions. Reflect on the beliefs, assumptions and attitudes about money you learned as a child and still follow. Since your most embedded money scripts are held in place by unconscious emotions, trying to rewrite them won’t necessarily work until those emotions are broken down.

3. Right believing produces right living.  Our psyche is a powerful tool that’s often overlooked when it comes to managing money. The only way you are going to win the war on your mind is by feeding it with sound, positive financial truth about money. With an abundance of resources at your finger tips there’s no reason why you can’t have a better relationship with money.

Remember, all it takes to improve it is a little time and a commitment to making things better. Like all great relationships though, the rewards are definitely worth the effort.