You have an enormous amount of power to control the quality of your life.

by - May 18, 2017

My mother is a hard worker. As I mentioned here, she worked as a tailor. I never felt deprived or needy because she made sure she provided all that I needed. But there were times were I felt neglected financially.

I remember when our high primary school had a trip to Happy Acres. I remember having discussions with my mother about the cost and she reminded me that the trip was a big sacrifice and financial commitment on her part.

A couple of other incidents in my childhood had similar lasting impacts. One was the constant "shouting" in my family about money and whether or not various things were affordable. I’m sure this is a conversation that occurs in every household.

I no longer blame my mom for the rocky financial situation I faced during childhood but I do think it affected me and I had to work on that.

When you’re constantly being told as a child that your family doesn’t have enough money, or that it’s unclear whether your family can meet simple expenses, you end up with fearful attitudes about money and constantly feeling as though you don’t have enough.

The money-related anxiety and fear that our parents instill in us can damage us financially for life and this create beliefs about money that are not based on truth but, instead on traditions or mindsets cultivated over generations.

Even though my mother is an incredible woman of strength, she is human and that makes her flawed. Not everything she taught me directly or indirectly, especially about money, was "gold".

As much as I felt loved, I also felt helpless at times and because of this, I learned to depend on myself and to look within to find away to thrive and pursue what mattered to me.

This is why I have to daily choose not to allow her flawed beliefs to hinder my life. There are times when I catch myself repeating her  I daily choose to embrace the freedom the life I want to live - the life of abundance and more than enough.

I'm still work in progress.

There were times in my life when I wanted to blame my background and my circumstances for my financial failures. But now I conciously make a decision to STOP coming up with reasons on why things are the way they are and just take full responsibility and find solutions. And solutions do come, always.

Being an active participant in my financial well-being has served me well. I am not where I would like to be but I'm definitely not where I used to be and I'm happy with that. Slow progress is still progress.

This is why I value my budget and many a times I choose to go without certain things because I value my life and dreams. I'm not running anyone's race but my own and I love it. No stress, no pressure.

I know many of us dream of a different financial life but pretending doesn’t get the job done. And doing nothing and wishing things would change is the death of your dreams. And the truth is nothing ever changes until you do!

So if you would like to change your money story, I encourage you to first make a choice that you are 100 % responsible for your life and you are 100% responsible on how your story is going to end.

Recognising that we live in a world of our own creation means that we are responsible. If we don’t like our life the way it is, then we are the ones responsible for making changes. Yes, your parents might have passed down certain wrong beliefs but you are not a victim of those beliefs. You have a right to choose differently and you can make the financial choices that are right for you.

Forget luck. Remember, life is all about figuring out what you want and making it happen. The point is, once you make a choice, there is always a way to follow through. You have an enormous amount of power to control the quality of your life.

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